Updated on 12th June 2019:
How to Quickly Fix your Couple Relationship:
A brief DIY handbook for serious lovers
By Dr Jim Byrne
Doctor of Counselling and Couple Therapist
The Institute for E-CENT Publications, 2019
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Preface
The problem
Copyright (c) Jim Byrne, 2019
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During the twenty years that I have spent as a couples’ therapist, I have seen a lot of unhappiness and misery, caused by the fact that people insist upon managing their side of their relationship on the basis of habit, and not from conscious understanding of how to do so!
Most people I have helped had no idea what a relationship really is. No idea what love really is. They were muddling their way through unhappy relationships like a blind man in a boxing ring: driven by habit and raw emotion.
They were also mainly hoping that one day somebody would arrive on a white charger and rescue them. Or that a miracle would happen, and the world, and their partner, would stop being so difficult; so painful; so distressing.
The thing that never occurred to any of them was to ask themselves this question: How did I get into this mess; and how can I get out of it?
Ultimately, that was the question I woke them up to; and that was the question I taught them to answer for themselves.
And the answers can be found in this book. Part 2 explains how we all got into the messy approach to relationship which caused our misery. And Parts 1, 3 and 4 will teach you how to get out of the mess you are in.
This book has been specially designed to provide some quick relief up front. That means that, right at the start of the book, I share with you some of the most powerful insights into how to have a happy relationships. I then help you to complete a couple of exercises that take five minutes per day, and which will begin to change your relationship situation almost at once.
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So let me now introduce you to those four parts of this brief book.
In Part 1, you will find a self-study program which helps you, slowly, and in managed steps, to review a range of insights that will transform your ability to relate to your partner much more successfully.
Every day, you will be asked to read just three of those insights. That means, three fairly brief descriptions of ways to be a happier couple. This should not take more than five or six minutes of your day. You are advised to then discuss those three insights with your partner. This might take a further ten minutes.
Day by day, this DIY course – which you share with your partner – builds up, slowly but surely, into a seven week program which is designed to deliver a happy relationship for you and your partner, if you both work at it.
Your time commitment to this program is likely to be less than half an hour each day. Is your relationship life worth an investment of less than thirty minutes per day?
All you have to do to succeed is to follow the seven week program systematically! Diligently!
At the end of seven weeks, you switch to Part 2.
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Part 2 teaches you how to change your relationship habits, which were probably mainly copied – and turned into habits – from watching your parents’ marriage when you were too young to be emotionally intelligent enough to know what you were copying – (starting when you were below the age of five years, and up to about the age of ten years).
This part of the program involves thinking back to your early childhood; how your parents treated you; how they related to each other; and how you felt about all of that. Out of this will come a quick and easy process for changing your ‘relationship role model’ and your ‘relationship mate model’.
The effect is that you will begin to behave in more constructive and loving ways with your partner, which will normally elicit new, more positive, more loving behaviours from your partner.
Get your copy today:
This book is available in two formats: Kindle eBook and standard paperback.
The eBook version is now available from the following Amazon outlets:
| Amazon.com, US+ | Amazon UK + Ireland | Amazon Germany |
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| Amazon Japan | Amazon Brazil | Amazon Canada |
| Amazon Mexico | Amazon Australia | Amazon India |
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Then, in Part 3, I present the conclusions of an extensive study that I published elsewhere; which is, essentially, a set of 17 guidelines for you to follow on how to be a more effective love-and-relationships partner. There is some (minimal) overlap between this part and Part 1.
With this part, I ask you to review those 17 guidelines three times, to get them into long-term memory. (Anything that you read just once is likely to be forgotten within a day or two!)
Finally, in Part 4, I teach you the most important things to know about your own personality, and your partner’s personality, so that you can relate to each other from more rational, reasonable, adult parts of yourselves. I do this by teaching you the most important elements of Transactional Analysis (TA), which is a way to understand and change your own and your partner’s way of communicating in your relationship – from unhelpful habits to effective ways of avoiding communications breakdowns.
Additionally, I have added Appendix A, at the back of this book, for those readers who are too emotionally upset about their relationship problems to be able to work on Part 1. Appendix A is a form of my Six Windows Model, especially written for couples. This is a simple process that helps you to review the problem that is upsetting you, in six different ways, so that you can feel better about having that problem in your life. (Then the main body of the book will help you to get the problem out of your life, by preserving and improving your relationship; or ending it!)
What you will get in exchange for studying this course of learning is this: A very happy relationship with a person you love, and who also loves you. Potentially, you will end up living with the love of your life – instead of causing them to dump you; or constantly battling with each other!
Good luck with the work of learning how to have a reliably happy, successful and enjoyable relationship with your love partner.
Best wishes,
Jim Byrne
Doctor of Counselling and Couple Therapist
14th February 2019
Get your copy today:
This book is available in two formats: Kindle eBook and standard paperback.
The eBook version is now available from the following Amazon outlets:
| Amazon.com, US+ | Amazon UK + Ireland | Amazon Germany |
| Amazon Spain | Amazon Italy | Amazon Netherlands |
| Amazon Japan | Amazon Brazil | Amazon Canada |
| Amazon Mexico | Amazon Australia | Amazon India |
The paperback version is also available at most of the following Amazon stores. (It might be slightly delayed at one or two of these stores).
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And here is the first of the two Contents Pages:
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And here is the second Contents page:
Get your copy today:
This book is available in two formats: Kindle eBook and standard paperback.
The eBook version is now available from the following Amazon outlets:
| Amazon.com, US+ | Amazon UK + Ireland | Amazon Germany |
| Amazon Spain | Amazon Italy | Amazon Netherlands |
| Amazon Japan | Amazon Brazil | Amazon Canada |
| Amazon Mexico | Amazon Australia | Amazon India |
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| Amazon Japan | Amazon France | Shipping to Singapore |
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