ABC Bookstore Online UK
Self help books; counselling books; personal development books
Topics include: Writing therapy; Relaxation; Diet, exercise, and sleep; Emotional self-management; Couples therapy and couple relationships; Self knowledge; Trauma; and more.
Welcome to our bookstore. We hope you enjoy browsing. Books can be the best source of knowledge when you have a problem and don’t know how to solve it. And remember, knowledge is power.
We have some problem-solving and self-development gems for you at the moment! Our book topics include: Anger, anxiety, depression; diet, exercise, sleep and relaxation; couples therapy and couple relationships; self-help; writing therapy; self-development; and counselling theories, including critiques of rational emotive and cognitive behavioural therapy. Our books are designed to help you to get the life you want.
Jim Byrne and Renata Taylor-Byrne, 2nd April 2022
First, let us introduce our sixteen self-help books…
How to write a new life for yourself:
Self-counselling and personal growth using regular and specialist journal writing
By Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling
The author, coming from very unpromising origins, has written an amazing life for himself!
This book will present you with 20 helpful exercises for improving your capacity to solve the problems that keep you stuck in your present life; to creatively plan a better future; and to digest and clean up the problems inherited from your past. As a result, you will be delighted with the life you designed for yourself, instead of living the limited life that was written for you by your parents and school teachers.
This is the book that will help you to write a new road map for better health, wealth and happiness, and to take control of your life.
For more information, please click this link: How to write a new life for yourself, in your journal.***
Are you feeling anxious about the state of the world; the state of your health; threats to your health; or your future economic circumstances? If so, this book can help to calm you down, and keep you happy in an unhappy world!
Cutting through the Worry Knot!
How to Reduce and Control Your Anxiety Level:
Using a whole body-brain-mind approach
And without using drugs, alcohol or escapism!
Anxiety can help you – by alerting you to the presence of real dangers. And it can make your life miserable, by setting off bodily alarms in situations where there are no significant dangers. Learn how to manage your anxiety through strategies involving your body, your brain and your mind.
This self-help book is dedicated to the generations of thinkers, writers, theorists, researchers and others who have investigated the nature of anxiety and worry; and tracked it back to its roots in lifestyle factors and philosophies of life. Their insights are summarized for the benefit of you, the reader.
Of course, we are all facing real threats and dangers out there in the world today; but we can still keep our anxiety level low enough to be happy and healthy, if we understand how to switch off the flight response; or at least damp it down!
Many people live lives which are tied up in knots of worry, anxiety, fear, apprehension and dread. They can hardly remember what it was like to feel relaxed, happy and at ease. This book will teach you how to cut through these kinds of emotional knots, from various angles, one at a time, to produce a state of greatly improved relaxation and ease.
Relax Your Way to a Better Life:
Using Dr Jacobson’s Progressive Muscle Relaxation technique for physical and mental health
“In his book titled ‘Farewell to Fatigue’, Dr Donald Norfolk tells the story of how Henry Ford learned to value relaxation time. When Ford was trying to rush his Model A motor car to market, he made his workers work seven days a week. Once the car was produced, and on the market, he realized that he could have got it out much faster if he’s allowed them to rest on Sundays, because they spent a great deal of the week correcting the errors that were made every Sunday!” (Renata Taylor-Byrne, 2022).
Relax your way to a better life. Switch off the tension that underlies your stress, anxiety, depression, unhappiness and vulnerability to physical illness; and switch on physical and mental health and happiness. Your productivity and creativity will soar; as will your general happiness level!
This is the book that helps you to get in touch with the sweet, soft feeling of total relaxation and the joy of being alive!
Tension is a source of personal misery, and of physical and mental health problems. Relaxation is the undoing of tension and stress, which improves physical and mental health; and your personal and professional productivity. But it cannot be done with alcohol, drugs, sex addiction, or other forms of escapism. It requires you to learn what it feels like to be tense, and then to let than tension go. This book will teach you what do do and how to do it.
For more information, please click this link: Relax and enjoy it.***
Transforming Traumatic Dragons:
How to recover from a history of trauma – using a whole body-brain-mind approach
By Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling
By Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling, September 2021
Trauma is all around us. The majority of people experience several traumatic events in life, in childhood or later on. And those traumatic experiences are difficult to digest; to process; and to recover from.
This book will teach you how to slowly and cautiously process, or digest, old emotional traumas, (horrible experiences), so they can be healed. After they have been healed, it will feel like they never happened; or they happened to somebody else; or they exist in a distant, undisturbing past history, which is now over!
This book will teach you three processes to help with the task of digesting your most awful experiences. These are:
– A process of re-framing, (or changing your thoughts and feelings), which has been derived from very wise modern and ancient philosophies;
– A process of confronting memories in the form of written reflection/ digestion exercises from various highly effective systems of psychotherapy; and:
– A whole body process of emotional integration (because feelings exist as much in our bodies as they do in our minds).
For more information about this featured book, please click this link: Childhood developmental trauma: Facing and defeating dragons.***
Who Are You, And Where Are You Going?
Transformative insights from psychology and the philosophy of psychotherapy
By Dr Jim Byrne, with Renata Taylor-Byrne
“Few of us have any idea what kind of creatures we are. If we don’t know what we are, how can we know how we should act? How can we know what will really make us happy; what will make us thrive?” … “… Surely each of us has to try, at least for ourselves, to decide what we are?”
When you look in the mirror, who do you see? When you contemplate the road ahead of you, in life, do you like what you see?
There are many wonderful places to get to in life; and many horrible places! Where are you going?
To understand where you are going in life, you have to understand where you have been, and the nature of the roadmap you are using. But even more important than those requirements, you need to have a clearer idea of who you actually *are* – beyond the labels that life has attached to you! (If you seem to be lost, does that not speak loudly about the quality of your personal map of life?)
This self-help book is the one that teaches you that you are not the limited being you think you are; that your personality can be reformed; that you can change your habitual feelings; and even the urges that control who you choose as a marriage partner.
For more information, please click this link: Change your destiny; improve your life.***
Here is a brief introduction to three new books which are currently in production:
On Love and Limerent Pseudo-Love:
Why people get into, and stay in, unhappy couple relationships
By Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling
March 2022 – ISBN: 9798428419368
We learn about love in our family of origin. For many, if not most of us, that is like learning about abstinence in a pub; or learning about peace on the battlefield. If you look at the unhappy relationships that surround you, and think about them for a while, you will come to realize that the glue that is holding most of those “relationships” together is not love, because there is nothing loving about the way many, if not most couples relate to each other. This book will introduce you to a clearer definition of ‘love’ and ‘relationship’; it will teach you a new philosophy of grown-up love, and also how to change your “relationship habits”, so that you will be experienced as a “lover” and not an “irritating problem”. It will teach you how to have a present-time, enjoyable, adult-to-adult, and playful relationship, with a freedom that you have never experienced before?
Our latest book on self-help and emotional self-care is this:
Up and Down the Social Totem Pole:
Or how to manage shame and its social anxiety side-effects
By Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling
Copyright © Jim Byrne, 2021 – ISBN: 9798427326773
Sometimes you feel good about yourself, and sometimes you feel low self-esteem, low self-efficacy, poor self-confidence, and perhaps even self-hatred or self-disgust. How does this flip-flop work, and how did it begin? This book will explain how you have an imaginary totem pole in your head, on which you place yourself, for reasons that are beyond your conscious recall. As you move up and down that pole, your moods and emotions are positively and negatively affected.
It seems shame is strongly implicated in many cases of social anxiety; or of low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence; plus some cases of public performance anxiety, and feelings of inferiority, or imposter syndrome.
This book will teach you how the social totem pole was constructed in your mind; who did it to you; and how to reverse its damaging effects. Now you can feel good about yourself most of the time, which will enhance your happiness and self-confidence, as well as your social connections and your fearlessness in the face of social stressors.
Our latest book related to counselling is this:
Portrait of a Psychotherapist in Transition
Inside a wounded healer
By Jim Byrne
This book contains the fictionalized biographical story of Daniel O’Beeve. Daniel had to become a doctor of something, because his mother implanted that idea in his life script. But he had to become a psychotherapist because he needed to fix himself; to heal his mind and heart; and to understand the human condition from the inside and the outside. To achieve this ambitious aim, he had to use a form of literary alchemy, mixed with some shamanic dreams and deep psychological insights.
The story begins as Daniel O’Beeve is about to go into a therapy supervision session with his cool and remote supervisor; it then reverts to the second year of Daniel’s life; and then moves forward to his counselling room, as he works with individual clients.
The mind and life of the therapist is woven into the minds and lives of his clients; and integrated with transcendental insights of value.
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Books for counsellors and psychotherapists
On this page you will find a few books for counsellors, psychotherapists and others who help people with their emotional and behavioural problems.
Processing Client Stories in Counselling and Psychotherapy:
How to think about and analyze client narratives
Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling
The Institute for E-CENT Publications – 2019
Copyright © Jim Byrne, 2019. All rights reserved.
Of all the systems of counselling and therapy, the main ones that pay attention to the body of the client include Gestalt Therapy, and my own system of Emotive-Cognitive Embodied Narrative Therapy (or E-CENT for short).
In E-CENT counselling, when a client arrives to see us, we see a body-brain-mind-environment-whole enter our room. We agree that this person will begin by telling us a story about their current difficulties; but we recognize that this story is affected, for better or worse, by the quality and duration of their recent sleep patterns; their diet (including caffeine, alcohol, sugary foods, and trans-fats in junk food); and whether or not they do regular physical exercise; and other bodily factors.
However, in this book, we will mainly focus upon the client’s story or narrative; and perhaps remind ourselves occasionally that this story is being told by a physical body-brain-mind which is dependent for optimal functioning upon such factors as diet, exercise, sleep, and so on. We will focus upon the question of the status of autobiographical narratives; and how to analyze the stories our clients tell us.
Holistic Counselling in Practice:
An introduction to the theory and practice of Emotive-Cognitive Embodied-Narrative Therapy
By Jim Byrne DCoun FISPC
With Renata Taylor-Byrne BSc (Hons) Psychol
This book was the original introduction to Emotive-Cognitive Embodied Narrative Therapy (E-CENT), which was created by Dr Jim Byrne in the period 2009-2014, building upon earlier work from 2003. It is of historic importance, but it has been superseded by Lifestyle Counselling and Coaching for the Whole Person, below.
Prices from: £5.83p GBP (Kindle) and £15.18p (Paperback)
Lifestyle Counselling and Coaching for the Whole Person:
Or how to integrate nutritional insights, exercise and sleep coaching into talk therapy.
By Dr Jim Byrne, with Renata Taylor-Byrne
Because diet, exercise and sleep are increasingly seen to be important determinants of mental health and emotional well-being, it is now necessary to rethink our models of counselling and therapy. This book will show counsellors how to incorporate lifestyle coaching and counselling into their system of talk therapy. It will also help self-help enthusiasts to take better care of their own mental and physical health, and emotional well-being.
Prices: from £4.26 GBP (Kindle) to £12.64 (paperback)
A counsellor reflects upon models of mind
Integrating the psychological models of Plato, Freud, Berne and Ellis
Prices from: £5.99 (Kindle) and £14.99 GBP (Paperback)
Every counsellor needs to think long and hard about their perceptions of their clients. Are they based on ‘common sense’, or have they been subjected to the discipline of considering the theories of great minds that preceded us, like Plato, Freud, Berne and Ellis. (Ellis, of course, oversimplified the SOR model of mind into the simple ABC model, but he is still important because of his impact on the whole CBT theory, which currently dominates the field of counselling and therapy in the US, UK and elsewhere).
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On this page you will find details of two books specifically on the subject of couple relationships; plus one on family conflict which is also helpful for couples. These books are helpful for two audiences:
– Individuals or couples who want to develop expertise in managing a loving relationship more effectively, for happiness and success; and/or:
– Counsellors and therapists who want to learn more about how to help people with couple problems.
How to Have a Wonderful, Loving Relationship:
Helpful insights for couples and lovers
By Jim Byrne (with Renata Taylor-Byrne)
Originally published with the title, Top secrets for Building a Successful Relationship, in 2018. Reissued with a new title and minor changes in November 2019.
Do you sometimes feel that you are just reliving your parents’ relationship? The unworkable, misery-inducing pattern that you witnessed in childhood? If so, you are probably right. That is most often how relationships turn out, unless you wake up and begin to change your unconscious pattern of relating.
Most human beings long to be engaged in a loving relationship with another person who they like and admire, and who likes, admires, loves and respects them in turn.
But most people have no idea how to bring this about.
A few lucky people will automatically ‘know’ what to do, non-consciously, because they had parents who openly demonstrated their love for each other.
If your parents did not love, like, respect and/or care for each other; or they failed to demonstrate active love for you; then you are going to have to learn from scratch. But do not despair. The answers to your problem can be found in this book…
PAPERBACK BOOK AND LOW-COST KINDLE EBOOK, ON RELATIONSHIP AND COMMUNICATION SKILLS…
Find out how to reprogram yourself for a loving, joyful, peaceful relationship that enriches your life, instead of making you miserable and disappointed. To find out some more about this process, please click this link.***
How to Quickly Fix your Couple Relationship:
A brief DIY handbook for serious lovers
This book has been specially designed to provide some quick relief up front. That means that, right at the start of the book, I share with you some of the most powerful insights into how to have a happy relationships. I then help you to complete a couple of exercises that take five minutes per day, and which will begin to change your relationship situation almost at once.
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How to Resolve Conflict and Unhappiness: Especially during Festive Celebrations:
Coping with and resolving frustrations, disappointments and interpersonal clashes at family celebrations like Christmas, Yuletide, Hanukkah, Eid, and Thanksgiving
Dr Jim Byrne (With Renata Taylor-Byrne)
Conflict can happen in families at any time of year. It jut so happens that the first Monday after the Christmas & New Year annual holidays is called ‘Divorce Day’, because that is when the highest number of divorce petitions is issued. And it seems most likely that the other major family holiday times are the runners up in the divorce stakes. However, what is hidden under these divorce statistics is the mountain of personal and social misery that precedes such drastic ‘solutions’ to repeated conflict, disappointments and interpersonal clashes.
But there is a better way to deal with these problems. Rather than letting the misery build up over time, you can take control of both your own mind, and the way you communicate within your family and society. You can insulate your social relationships from constant or repeated misery and unhappiness; and learn to have a wonderful life with your family and friends.
The solutions have been assembled by Dr Jim Byrne in this book about how to re-think/re-feel/re-frame your encounters with your significant others; how to communicate so they will listen; how to listen so they can communicate with you; and how to manage your lifestyle for optimum peace, happiness and success in all your relationships.
PAPERBACK AND eBOOK ON CONFLICT RESOLUTION…
Don’t let your relationships deteriorate. Get the solution today. Click this link for more.***
Our latest book is this:
Lessons from the Couples Therapy Couch:
Insights into how couples relate, for better and for worse; and how they can be helped
By Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling and Couples Therapist
“People settle for a level of despair they can tolerate and call it happiness”.
Marriage, like all forms of couple relationships, is for grown-ups. But very many couples tend to fight like bad-tempered babies, or sulky babies, or vengeful parent figures, when things go wrong in their lives. Many individuals, both male and female, expect their marriage partner to be like a sustaining mother to them, so they can act like an omnipotent baby.
This book contains a collection of inside stories of couples therapy encounters, some successful and some less so; conducted over the first 18 years of the author’s 24 years of couples therapy experience; and combined with insights into the theories and models used by the author to help couples to change and grow. All identities have been disguised to protect the confidentiality of the counselling process. But all of these people are real; and all of the therapy approaches described are helpful for couples in distress.
For more, click this link.***
Books about improving your sleep
How to Sleep Well, Every Single Night: Quick solutions from the science of sleep
By Renata Taylor-Byrne, January 2022
This new book (dated January 2022) from Renata Taylor-Byrne, represents the quickest and easiest introduction to the latest scientific research on how to resolve your problems with insomnia; how to manage your sleep better; and how to benefit from the healing and restorative effects of a good night’s sleep.
Prior to writing this book, the author reviewed more than twenty years of scientific research from the world’s leading sleep researchers.
Sleep is more precious than material wealth – and indeed it is impossible to maintain the quest for material wealth without adequate sleep. As Warren Buffet has said: “When forced to choose, I will not trade even one night’s sleep for the chance of extra profit.”
Now you can learn how to sleep like a happy baby, every single night!
How to Stop Wrecking Your Mental, Physical and Emotional Health:
Answers from the science of sleep
This book addresses many important questions about sleep, including the following:
Why should we be committed to getting high quality, undisturbed sleep? (The physical and mental health benefits).
What causes common sleep problems? And:
How to fix common sleep problems, like insomnia. (This includes looking at foods that promote sleep; and foods that destroy sleep. Plus how to manage your lifestyle in general to promote healthy sleep – which, in turn, gives you a healthy life. And also how to manage your mind, and your sleep environment, to reap the great rewards of regular, nourishing and regenerating sleep experiences).
…For more information about this book, please click this link: Sleep science and your health.***
Books that analyze and criticize the core theories of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT)
On this page you will find four books that criticize various aspects of the theory and practice of REBT. Two more will be added later.
The first book is a comprehensive deconstruction of REBT theory
A Major Critique of REBT:
Revealing the many errors in the foundations of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy
Also, we have added a reference to the research which shows that emotional pain and physical pain are both mediated and processed through significantly overlapping neural networks, which contradicts Dr Ellis’s claim that nobody could hurt you, except with a baseball bat.
Price: £23.58 GBP (Paperback) and £6.99 GBP (Kindle).
If you want to know the essence of our critique of REBT, but you don’t want to have to read 500+ pages, then this 150 page summary should appeal to you:
Discounting Our Bodies:
A brief, critical review of REBT’s flaws
This book is a brief, summary critique of the main errors contained in the foundations of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT) theory. And especially the invalidity of the ABC model, which asserts that nothing other than beliefs intervenes between a negative experience and an emotional-behavioural reaction. (The body is ignored!) It is based on material from the major critique, above.
Paperback only (at the moment). Price £9.50 GBP
The Amoralism of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT):
The mishandling of self-acceptance and unfairness issues by Albert Ellis
This book is an extensive, detailed critique of two of the central ideas of REBT:
(1) The concept of ‘unconditional self-acceptance’; and
(2) The idea of life as being fundamentally unfair, and that it should be accepted as such, and never complained about.
In the process we also deal with Albert Ellis’s idea that people should never be blamed for anything; that praise and blame are bad; that guilt and shame are to be eliminated, and never taken to be indicators that we’ve done something wrong. Along the way we have a debate with Dr Michael Edelstein about the role of fairness in couple relationships. (This material is also based on chapters from the major critique above).
Albert Ellis and the Unhappy Golfer:
A critique of the simplistic ABC model of REBT
By Dr Jim Byrne
The unhappy golfer is in Dr Albert Ellis’s office, in New York City, somewhere around the end of the 1950’s. He tells Dr Ellis that he feels terribly unhappy about being rejected by his golfing peers, and Dr Ellis tells him: This is something you are doing to yourself!
Ellis uses the unhappy golfer to introduce his readers to his simple ABC model of REBT, which claims that a person cannot be upset emotionally in any way other than by their own beliefs!
This book sets out to refute this simplistic idea.
This bookstore is owned and run by Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling; and Renata Taylor-Byrne, Lifestyle Coach.
We are based in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire, and we spend most of our time researching and writing books that can help you to improve the quality and quantity of your life!
Email: Dr Jim Byrne