Updated on 3rd December 2022
The Disconnected Heart of Daniel O:
The fictionalized autobiography of a seeker after love
“How I healed my (mother-inflicted) childhood emotional wounds, and how you can heal yours!”
A fictionalized-factual life story, combined with a subjective psychological self-analysis of developmental trauma disorder
By Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling – (and his alter ego, Daniel O’Beeve)
Published by Alchemical Press, Hebden Bridge, 2022
Copyright © Jim Byrne, 2022
By Renata Taylor-Byrne
“The word trauma comes from Greek, meaning a bodily injury. An emotional trauma is the type of wound that, if not processed and integrated into a psychologically meaningful context by the person affected, can become a void. This void can then expand to swallow not just the traumatized person but also their children and their children’s children. In this way, trauma can be passed from one generation to the next.”
Ruth E. Dixon. ‘Mad in America’: A blog post. November 4th 2022.
When a child walks away from an abusive parent – when they are old enough to leave – they unknowingly, and unwillingly, carry that abusive parent in their heart and mind. And most often they head off into a life in which they repeat the same kind of abusive relationship with a “love partner”.
When the physical bruises of abusive parenting heal, the psychological scars remain intact, hidden in the subconscious mind of the abused child. And also stored in the physical tensions of body-memory.
Jim Byrne thought he’d walked away. Left it all behind. Sailed into a new life, at the age of eighteen years. But his physically and emotionally abusive childhood relationship with his mother (and his father) came back to haunt him at the age of twenty-two years.
At that point, his life imploded. He’d been over-consuming (“abusing”) sleeping pills for a few weeks, following total rejection by his peer group on a barren military squadron of damaged young men.
Eventually an ambulance came and got him; took him to hospital; where he saw a psychoanalyst for weekly meetings. After three meetings, the analyst told him that he (Jim) needed to examine his relationship with his mother.
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